People usually look for a therapist when part of their life has hit a crisis point. That usually means that the main thing on their mind is getting a quick solution to their problems and feeling ok again as fast as possible. This a large element of what therapy provides but it can go beyond that. Although it may not feel like it when life gets really tough is also a great time to learn more about yourself, your relationship with other people and how you respond to life eve
Counsellors and psychotherapists generally don’t recommend books to clients, yet I sometimes find myself mentioning Bronnie Ware’s book “The Top Five Regrets of the Dying” in the counselling room. The book reveals the most common regrets that people have as they come towards the end of their life: • I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. • I wish I hadn’t worked so hard. • I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings
If you were asked to list all the losses in your life you’d probably include events like the death of a loved one or maybe a relationship break up. If you spent more a little more time thinking back over your life you may find that you include some of the following in your list; Moving house Maybe you had to leave your childhood home or a place where you felt safe. Maybe you chose to move yet you still left a place that you associate with happy memories. The end of a friends
Many of us won’t be surprised to read that social media can have a significant impact on our mental and emotional wellbeing. What if nobody ‘likes’ the selfies we post? What if we don’t have many followers? And what if we feel our own life compares unfavourably with the airbrushed and carefully curated words and images posted by others on social media platforms such as Instagram and Facebook? The Internet and social media increasingly play a role in the counselling room.